From A: “What’s something I can do to feel less scared about graduating from college?”
Ben says: I think you should research. You should talk to your advisor or a professor that you are close with. It’s a scary prospect, but getting advice and then figuring out what you’re going to do makes it not-so-scary. Graduating from college puts you in the scary “real world” that everyone talks about, but the “real world” is not that much different. You’ll figure it out, but if you need it, always ask for help. People are very willing to give advice and set you on a good path. Good luck to you!
Shannon says: Think about a plan. Are you planning on graduate school or going for your Masters degree? Do you have enough experience to apply to said programs? What are you going for? My sister is graduating from college this year so I know all about the application process. But you don’t have to continue school, depending on your major. You can take time off and work or go straight into the job market. I’m not doing anything extravagant; I’m moving home and working/volunteering for a year and then applying to different programs. The best way to go is to just have a plan. Even if it isn’t your final draft it gives you ideas for a direction.
From X2: “My boyfriend cheated on me. How do I know I can still trust him?”
Ben says: You can’t. Plain and simple. People who cheat don’t deserve a second chance, it’s not negotiable.
Shannon says: You can’t. I have made the mistake of trusting a cheater again and I have watched my friends do it too. Cheaters always do it again or just plain let you down. It’s not worth it. You can find someone who is better than that. If someone cheats, no matter what the circumstances are, drunk or what not, you don’t mean as much to them as you thought you did. Not trying to put you down, they just don’t care. You should move on and try not to make them care; this is the worst mistake we can all make. We have this innate need to try and change someone for the better. We all just need to realize that we can’t change them. Only they can help themselves. I believe that once a cheater always a cheater, and that 99.9% of people never change.
From Marilyn: “My boyfriend gets a bit upset when my profile picture doesn’t have us together in it and his always does. But, his background on his computer is him with some other girl form back home. I want to point this out, but I don’t want to make a fuss. Any ideas?”
Ben says: I say tell him. If he wants to make a big deal out of your profile picture, then make a big deal out of his background. It’s not petty if he does the same thing. I don’t think you should get in a fight over something that little, but he should be fair with you also. If he wants the right in the relationship to show other girls on his background, then you should have the right to be alone in your profile picture.
Shannon says: I would point it out. I mean you are both adults so it shouldn’t be that hard to talk about a problem. If he makes a fuss about your profile picture then you have every right to talk to him about his background. I see people I know, who are together, have individual pictures on their profiles. I don’t think it is a big deal. I would just sit him down and tell him your side of the story, that you don’t like him fussing over your page, and you don’t like how he makes a fuss about you while he has a picture on his background of him and another girl.