Question from J:
How do you overcome the fear of rejection when asking someone out?
Ben says: You really never get over that fear, even after you have asked them out. The best advice I can give is just be yourself. Don’t come off trying to sound intelligent, or cute or exaggerated. Just be yourself. If they reject you, well…it happens, but at least you were honest. If you date someone for a long time, get really attached, act like yourself and then get rejected, that will hurt a lot more than just getting rejected before attachment. Good luck!
Shannon says: It’s kinda like Nike. Just do it! The worst thing is that they say no, but there are thousands more people in the world, so you will have many chances after that. So just push away the butterflies and ask them. Life’ s too short. What are you going to gain by waiting or not doing it? I’ll tell you: regret, and a whole lot of it.
Question from X:
Why do we, as people in general, wait so long to do the right or necessary thing? Why can’t we realize that we should’ve done certain things a long time ago?
Ben says: We were actually discussing this in my philosophy class the other day. People have this internal turmoil: “Should I do it? Maybe I shouldn’t…is it the right thing to do?” We literally argue with ourselves over what we should or shouldn’t do. By the time we have made a decision, it’s too late to go back and change what we already did, which was ignore the situation. If you feel it’s right, do it. If you don’t, then don’t do it. I know I sometimes think back and wish I would have done something, but there is no reason to stress out about it, because I can’t change it now. I use that experience to influence my future decisions. It’s really just about feeling it.
Shannon says: Denial. Procrastination. Take your pick. We are always hoping that someone will come along and do it for us, or we just find no reason to do it at the time. When we look back, we see the things that are so obvious now, but when you are going through them or watching them happen, you don’ t see any of it. It’s just our nature to put things off. We don’ t know how it’s going to end. We can just hope for the best.
Question from Kid:
Why do people / companies feel the need to sexualize Halloween?
Ben says: Sex sells. Plain and simple. When photography was created, people wanted nudity immediately. It’s the same with everything. Visually, that’s what sells and, in this day and age, it’s allowed. It’s sad to see such an ancient and wonderful holiday destroyed. Heck, I bet if you asked everyone on campus, you might find three people who actually know what Halloween is about, where it came from and its original name. I’ll give you a hint, it wasn’t All Hallow’s Eve or Devil’s Night. Part of me can’t blame people though, it’s education and suppression really. This is the first time, in decades, centuries even, that a person can express themselves sexually without being reprimanded.
Education, with its preconceived notions of what kids “should learn” and what is “inappropriate,” leaves out important history, mostly religious. We are talking about a holiday. I’m not attacking anyone, I think religion is good, but people need to be educated about all religions in school.
Shannon says: You know, I have no problem with people who want to dress up for Halloween. What I do have a problem with is how they dress in the most provocative way possible, get belligerently drunk and run around campus. I feel that there are ways to have just as much of a good time getting dressed up in normal costumes. This year I went with my little sister to find a costume and found that even the little kid costumes were as showy and flashy as ones for people my age. My little sister couldn’t find anything because she said that she would feel uncomfortable wearing something like that. I miss the days when I was little and people wore things that went past their butt. I understand that this is the one time in the year to dress up, but I don’ t think that it has to be as revealing as possible. Sadly, these are the times we live in and showing a little too much skin is becoming part of the picture. The companies that run the Halloween stores know it and are exploiting it. All I have to say is, don’ t feel forced or persuaded to dress in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable. You can look just as good in a covering costume and be safe when you’re out.